I used to be a very anxious person. Someone whose brain was wired for anxiety and worry, or so I believed. I used to have full-blown panic attacks, and between the panic attacks, I was worried about when the next attack would strike. I was pretty obsessed with trying to relax, but with not much luck. All that changed drastically about 6 years ago when I discovered Hypnosis and how it can help to calm, shift, and manage anxious thoughts.
An Easy Way to Manage Anxious Thoughts During This Challenging Time Of Covid-19
I want to share this effective tool that can easily shift your focus from your anxious thoughts to calm, positive and empowering thoughts. We need positivity and self-empowerment more than ever during this time of Covid-19 that brings so much uncertainty.
Calming Your Mind and Shifting Your Thoughts – Who Can Benefit?
I will write 2 versions of this tool – the first version is for adults. The second version is for children and will be written like a basic recipe along with some suggestions so parents can make adjustments based on age and communication skills. Then I will share why this tool is so effective.
How to Help Adults Manage Anxious Thoughts and Redirect Them To “The Here and Now”
Stress, anxiety, worry and unhelpful thoughts are part of adult life. Now, during this global Covid-19 pandemic, we seek ways to manage those states more than ever.
Once you feel anxious or notice negative thoughts or worries creeping into your mind, invite your mind to notice:
- 3 things you can see
- 3 things you can hear
- 3 things you can feel (i.e. the fabric of your clothes, the wind on your skin, the floor under your feet)
- 3 things you can smell
This is the very basic recipe to stop your anxiety, worry or anxious thoughts, calm them down, and create a shift of attention to the here and now.
The more you use this hypnotic tool and practice, noticing things in the present moment, the easier and faster the shift will work for you.
How to Help Your Kid Move From Being Stuck in Worry And Anxious Thoughts And Step into Empowerment And Positivity
Kids feel and notice what’s happening around them. Even if we, as parents, think that they don’t pay attention and are instead concentrating on the TV, a game or a book, they are very sensitive to how we, the adults, react to different situations.
Now, as many families self-isolate due to the Coronavirus global pandemic, the children in your family may either ask more questions or show a change in their behaviour.
We can empower our kids by encouraging them to find love, safety and positive resources. The way I support my clients and my children is by using this wonderful tool, which everyone loves. We call it “The 3 Questions.”
Here is the basic process to help kids calm down and step into a positive, resourceful state:
If possible, go for a walk – in many cases, due to the Covid-19 restrictions, you will do this at home.
- Ask your kid to name 3 things they love (can be anything that gives them a sense
of love and being loved).
- Ask your kid to name 3 things they see in the moment
- Ask your kid to name 3 things they can hear in the moment (for that they need to stay quiet for a few seconds and listen…)
- Ask your kid to come up with 3 things that make them happy
- Ask your kid to come up with 3 things that help them relax (anything that comes to their mind)
You can add more categories, like:
- 3 things they can feel/touch in the moment
- 3 things they can smell in the moment
- 3 yellow/red/blue (you get the idea . . .) objects
- 3 different plants they like or see
- 3 different animals they can see/love
- 3 different types of foods they want/love to eat
Here’s Why It Helps
What Your Kids Love
By thinking of and talking about 3 things your kids love – they calm down and get a sense of safety, belonging and love, which activates their positive thinking.
Thinking of and searching for 3 things they can see and hear in the moment helps kids shift their thoughts to the here and now, rather than focus on anxious, negative thoughts, worry and anxiety.
What Your Kids Make Happy
By asking your kid to think of and talk about 3 things that make them happy, you encourage your kid to focus on something positive, which creates a change of state.
What Your Kids Help to Relax
By thinking of and talking about 3 things that help them relax – they are encouraged to search for positive resources to help them shift their state to a calmer one. Oftentimes, parents tell their kids what will help them. By asking these questions, we empower our children to find their own solutions. As we all know, the most powerful solutions to our problems are those that come from within us. These questions also allow kids to develop a sense of independence and self-trust by knowing that they can find solutions to what bothers them.
The reason the question about relaxation is the final question is to leave the child with a sense of empowerment and resourcefulness and encourage them to use their solution immediately.
If you are an adult looking to calm your thoughts and redirect them to the here and now to manage your anxiety, worry and stress, ask yourself the above questions in a playful way whenever you feel nervousness in your body and mind.
Play and Have Fun
If you are a parent who wants to support your kid, I invite you to play. Play with your kids during the day and before bedtime. Be part of the game. You can either answer the questions out loud or answer them in the privacy of your mind, but give your child center stage – invite your kid to answer first.
It doesn’t have to be perfect, and you can include many and different categories, just keep in mind where you want to direct your child’s thoughts: to love & safety, the present moment, being resourceful and empowered and having a sense of playfulness.
TIP: The more they practice “The 3 Questions,” the faster they will be able to redirect their thoughts.
Miri supports kids and parents who experience anxious thoughts and helps them manage their anxious pattern levels to free them from anxiety.
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